What example can you share with someone? What can you teach someone? What example can you be to someone that is going through what you survived? How much pain can you remove from someone’s life because of your hurt? What survival gift can you give?
In everything be an example of doing what is good. Titus 2:8
There are many things that my life has been filled with. There are things in my life that have made me who I am today, things that required overcoming and survival.
There are moments that hurt, caused others pain, and even may have caused a lost tie to someone. These moments may have hurt the person involved or someone indirectly or even myself. Either way, the pain was there and it was strong. The pain brings learning and it brings growth. My growth has brought me through to the person I am today. There are days that I think back on the moments of pain and I know that Christ had a plan. His pathway was bringing me to this moment. It was leading me down the road that would bring me joy and happiness that lasted longer than that time of hurt and loss.
The people in my path that may have been lost along the way or been hurt by my actions, words, or physically have also been brought to a better place, I believe. I believe that God has a plan for each of us and the pain is a way to grow into what His plan has for us.
One generation will commend your works to another; they will tell of your mighty acts…They will tell of the power of your awesome works, and I will proclaim your great deeds.
Psalm 145:4 & 6
I want to share what I have done, with the Grace of God, to overpower these struggles like addiction, immorality, and even verbal abuse. The neglect, abuse, and loss that I have been through has taught me how to “not” treat my children and family members. It has brought me to the point. I refrain from treating them as though they are unloved, unwanted, and unheard. My children feel and know that I love them no matter what they do and no matter what the do not accomplish. They know that they can come to me always with anything they may need to talk about or not talk about.
We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well.
I Thessalonians 2:8
Love your children. Love your neighbors. Love your family. Don’t just love them in the moments, love them all the time. Show them your love for them by acknowledging they exist more than just during the holiday seasons. Send them your love through social media, phone calls, texting, emails, and even inviting them to your home for a meal. Act as though they are important to you if you feel that way. If you want to make them feel important to you and you want them to feel the love from your heart, then invite them over with plenty of time to spare. Give your loved ones the gift of your time. Don’t try to buy their love with gifts of meaningless mementos. Don’t present them with something that will surely be tossed aside or paid no attention to. Give them your undivided attention and time.
What example can you be to someone that is going through what you survived? Share with your children what you went through as a child, a teenager, and as an adult. When children recognize what you have gone through, what you have conquered, and what you have accomplished they can relate to your teachings much easier. You can share these things with friends that you meet and become close to. This allows you to be more transparent to them and will allow them to open up and you can both pray to God for relief and the overcoming power only Christ can provide you. The devil loves you to keep secrets and hide things from others. He wants you to feel guilty about things, especially if he can make you feel that you could have or should have done something to avoid it. Let it out to breath! Allow God to shine His loving light on the troubles that He can turn into connections to others.
Take it from me; love can never be purchased. Love and respect are earned by making others feel the same from you.