Our spouses often show us love in different ways than we expect: We are all different and give and receive love differently. This was a hard lesson for me to learn. My pastor had to tell me once that my husband does love me and was in fact showing me his love, it was just in a different way than I expected. Learning this lesson opened my eyes to see things in a whole new way.
LOVE: the dictionary defines love as an intense feeling of deep affection. How do you feel this from others? How do you express this to others?
Find out your love language
I recall many times receiving a gift from my husband and thinking, “what?!” Now, I am a girl and I DID enjoy the fact of a gift but I also thought, “I would prefer time with you or something like a hug.” This was NOT how he expresses his love for me. He feels that if you give him little gifts that you love him. So, he was simply expressing to me his love for me. So, now, while I am at the store I look for little things he likes such as a movie he has been wanting or a snack he desires greatly. Now, with the
He feels that if you give him little gifts that you love him. So, he was simply expressing to me his love for me. So, now, while I am at the store I look for little things he likes such as a movie he has been wanting or a snack he desires greatly. Now, with the movie, we both get the love language fulfilled. I receive time with him, but this is his 2nd love language so he likes it too! And he gets the gift portion of love. So, we each get something by simply taking a moment to think about one another and show how we value one another.
He also has had to learn how to express love towards me so that I feel it. He will walk up and just hug me. That is mine!! I want a hug or a moment of devotion to me. I want to be heard and actually be shown the attention I desire. The GIFT of a chiropractor visit or a massage fulfills both of our needs. he gets to gift it to me and I get to feel the touch.
We have both had to make the adjustments in the expression of love in order to feel the love from the other one. It was NOT difficult, it just took some time to recognize. Once we took the above-noted tests, it was sooooo evident.
I would highly recommend the above tests, they only take 10 minutes or so but are well worth the result. Give them to your children so that you always remember to respond with love to them. As a child grows, they may need to retake it, as they mature and grow into the adult God planned for them to be. So, Happy Testing!!