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Marriage Lesson 2 of 20

Marriage is hard: One of the best pieces of marriage advice I ever received was from an older woman, a friend of the family. I was newly engaged and dreaming about the wedding when she said to me, “You’ll always love your husband but there will be times when you don’t like him at all.” At the time, I couldn’t even imagine it. I was young and starry eyed. I shrugged it off but never forgot it. A few years later, her comment came back to me and I finally understood what she meant. The truth is that marriage is hard. Very hard. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Two sinful people trying to do life together is always hard. You love your spouse but there will be times when you just don’t like him. Because Christ loved us first, and through his work in us, we can love our spouses through those hard seasons.

My thoughts on the subject;

I agree wholeheartedly.  There have been times when we could not stand to be in the same oxygen as one another.  There were times we could only walk away.  This is the way we coped with and still cope with some of the troubles.  That doesn’t mean that we EVER stopped loving one another.  It simply means we knew our limitations and when we needed to just walk away.  So, know YOUR limitations and walk away to breathe whenever it is necessary.

We are two different people and we have different personalities and there are times they clash but more times we enjoy one another’s differences.  We find time to introduce one another to new and exciting things that would not be thought of had we been without each other.  Our differences are what bonds us together.  So, remember that no matter how much they may bother you, they are blessings in disguise.  Once you uncover the blessings, you reap the joy.

Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the treacherous is hard.
Proverbs 13:15

So many think that marriage is like living in a dream world all the time.  They set themselves up for failure, before it even begins.  They make it out to be a time of nothing but joy and ;laughter, never causing pain.  This is just untrue and marriage is not a fairy tale.  Don’t get me wrong, marriage can be worth it!  Just keep in mind that you have to learn how to argue, disagree, and still come out in love.  It is okay to have disagreements!  No one agrees on everything all of the time.  Just keep working on it!

So they are no longer two, but one flesh.  What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.
Matthew 19: 9

God bless you all!

 

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Author:

I am not your typical Texas Girl. I do not wear makeup and do my hair up big! I do not eat out every night, like so many around us. I do enjoy to being with my husband and children and have truly enjoyed it for the last 22 years. Yes, we fight, yes we disagree but we never chose any other life. We fight for one another and our family that is near us. We stand strong against adversity and never sway in our beliefs even when it is going against the grain. We have been blessed in many ways by the God above and remain amazed at the gifts and blessings He has poured over our children. Our walk has had ups and downs but we always return to one another. God Bless each of you reading this blog page!

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