I have been thinking of this issue that bothers me for quite some time and have been contemplating how to respond without offending people. I have thought of ways to express my pain, my disappointment, along with my disgust and all I can come up with is “screw it”. If you don’t like what I have to say, do something about it!
When I see people that say no to their child or children to do something, giving the reason that it is too expensive, costs too much, not valuable enough; I get aggravated and shaken.
Because…these are the same people that go out and buy new vehicles, homes, recreational vehicles over providing an education for their child that will offer them more avenues in the future than working in fast-food or within a vocational trade. Now, I am not one to say any of the vocations are bad, there are many people that they need those trades because they enjoy them or don not feel that they are able to reach another goal.
What bothers me is that they see greatness in their child but they want to stuff the ability down so the child doesn’t achieve their true abilities. They put their personal wants above their children’s future. These people are the reason fast-food employees are demanding higher wages. They have taught them that they should live the rest of their life on the bottom part of the totem pole. They have never shown them the true abilities they can achieve. They have never expressed that the abilities for everyone is different! Each child earns their own way and earns the way to their own future.
My son did not work as hard as he did to achieve the goals and future desires of my daughter. Just the same, my daughter doesn’t go to school to get my son his grades. If they are different learners with different abilities then they have different goals and achievements to accomplish. This, we may have to spend a large amount of money on school tuition for one child that we are not necessarily required to do for the other child. We may have to suffer through a season, have difficulty spending alone time with the spouse, or getting any personal time because we may be giving more time than we thought possible to our child.
Just remember: this is a season!! We give so they can achieve! We go without so they can have! We go lose in order for them to win and gain! We don’t give them what they want, we allow them to earn what they want. We push them to overcome in order to be a success in their future!
How are you losing in order for your child to reach their goals! Remember, THEIR goals, not what you want for them but what they want for themselves!!!
I pray a blessing over each of you! May you listen to your child’s heart and minds!